I know my thoughts seem disjointed from day to day...they are.

12 years will not be destroyed by 2 weeks.  It will not.  It can not. 

I have to hold fast to the idea that those 2 weeks of the affair and the 2 weeks of him not wanting to be married to me can not define the man he is.  If he is willing to work on this marriage...the one that he vowed to cherish in front of our family and friends then I have to do whatever I can to help myself forgive him.  To help myself try to heal this relationship. 

This doesn't define the man he is.  This doesn't define the marriage we have.  This will not define our love. 

It will not because we won't let it.